Welcome to the August 2014 Carnival of Natural Parenting: Friends
I freely admit that I did not expect lessons in friendship from a movie where 2 of the main characters aren’t even human. The stars of Guardian of the Galaxy are mostly extraterrestrial and include a raccoon and a tree. So I’m comfortable admitting that I hadn’t expected to enjoy the show, despite it being a Marvel movie.
I won’t recap the movie since that info is easily found elsewhere, like Plugged In. I’ll just highlight the examples of the strength and power of friendship, loyalty and sacrifice. In no particular order:
Peter Quill aka Starlord – our unlikely hero is an orphan whose mentality is take whatever you can get from others, regardless of their feelings. He clearly abides by the love ‘em and leave ‘em before they can leave you philosophy of life. However, he’s not as callous as he seems. Twice, he sticks his neck out (literally endangering his life), to save Gamora. It could easily be argued that he’s simply falling for the pretty alien, except for the end scenes.
Rocket the Raccoon – an amazingly intelligent, fighting machine, Rocket the Raccoon also has a complex about being a human animal. His sidekick is Groot. Rocket puts up a good front, appearing to care for no one and often treating Groot dismissively. Later we find that his friendship with Groot was far more important than he let on.
Groot – the gentler of the two friends, he is fiercely loyal and protective. And it’s nice to have him on your side because he is VICIOUS in a fight. He is the most open to befriending the others in this motley crew and ends up saving Drax’s life.
Gamora – her “father,” the great supervillian Thanos has loaned her out to Ronan as a henchmen. We find that there is no love lost and Gamora values honor above all. She wants to save others from the pain that she has suffered and double crosses Ronan in order to do so.
Drax the Destroyer – Drax had a wife and family once but they were killed by Ronan. Drax is consumed with bitterness. This bitterness clouds his judgement and almost destroys him along with the others. His heart begins to soften after Groot saves him.
Poignant end scenes underscore the strength of a friendship forged in unlikely circumstances, strengthened by a common cause. The sacrifice demonstrated is enough to make you tear up. But Marvel’s impeccable timing also keeps you laughing.
Friendship heals – bitterness, hurt, and anger can be soothed by the balm of friendship
Friendship accepts – regardless of your looks, your handicaps, or your quirks, true friends accept you and affirm that you are valuable
Friendship sacrifices – a true friend gives at their expense to help you be better and live better
Jesus said, “Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.” (John 15:13)
Ironically, the day after we saw this movie, one of my close friends from college sent a message to “the crew.” She stated how blessed she was to have such amazing women to call friends. We all feel the same way. Friendship is an invaluable element when it comes to experiencing joy in this life.
Tell me about your friendships and how they influence your life.
- Sibling Revelry — At Natural Parents Network, Amy W. shares her joy in witnessing the growth of the friendship between her two young children.
- Making New Mama Friends — Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama muses on how she was able to connect with like-minded mamas and form deep friendships both in ‘real life’ and online. Learn how these life-long friendships, both between Jennifer and other mothers but also between Jennifer’s daughter and the other children, formed and flourished.
- Family, Friends and Family Friends — Vidya Sury at Vidya Sury, Going A-Musing, Collecting Smiles is reflecting on family friendships, past and present.
- Arranging friendships in a modern world — From a free-range childhood to current parenthood, how can an introvert like Lauren at Hobo Mama navigate the newly complicated scheduling of playdates and mom friends?
- Mommy Blogs: Where Moms Make Friends — Mothers make friends with other mothers in new ways. The options from earlier decades remain, but new avenues have sprung up with mommy bloggers. Laurie Hollman, Ph.D. at Parental Intelligence shares her thoughts.
- Friendship and Sacrifice: Guardians of the Galaxy — Shay at 4HisGlory learned that friendship lessons can be found in unlikely places, like blockbuster summer movies.
- Friendship – Finding, Forming, Keeping, and Wishing — Life Breath Present‘s thoughts on finding, forming, keeping, and wishing for friendships as an introvert.
- Consciously Creating My Community: Monthly Dinners — How have you intentionally created community? Dionna at Code Name: Mama‘s goal for the year is to cultivate community. One way she’s done that is to help organize two different monthly dinners with friends.
- Adults need imaginary friends, too — Tat at Mum in Search shares why it’s a good idea for adults to have imaginary friends. You get to meet Tat’s friend and download a playbook to create your own.
- Friends Near, Friends Far — Kellie at Our Mindful Life helps her kids keep in touch with friends 600 miles apart.
- Which comes first, social skills or social life? — Jorje of Momma Jorje frets about whether her daughter can learn social skills without experience, but how to get good experience without social skills.
- Snail Mail Revival — Skype isn’t the only way to stay in touch with long distance friends, That Mama Gretchen and her family are breaking out the envelopes and stamps these days!
- Montessori-Inspired Friendship Activities — Deb Chitwood at Living Montessori Now shares a roundup of Montessori-inspired friendship activities for home or classroom.
- How I used the internet to make local friends — After years of striking out at the park, Crunchy Con Mom finally found some great local friends . . . online!
- My How Friends Change — Erica at ChildOrganics knows entirely too much about how to comfort a friend after a loss.